"I Have Forgiven You" - Kemi Olunloyo To Iyabo Ojo

ɴɪɢᴇʀɪᴀɴ ᴊᴏᴜʀɴᴀʟɪꜱᴛ, ᴋᴇᴍɪ ᴏʟᴜɴʟᴏyᴏ ʜᴀꜱ ᴅᴇᴄɪᴅᴇᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴇɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇ ʙᴀᴛᴛʟᴇ ʙᴇᴛᴡᴇᴇɴ ʜᴇʀ ᴀɴᴅ ᴏɴᴇ ɴɪɢᴇʀɪᴀɴ ᴀᴄᴛʀᴇꜱꜱ, ɪyᴀʙᴏ ᴏᴊᴏ. ꜱʜᴇ ɢᴀᴠᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ʀᴇᴀꜱᴏɴꜱ ᴡʜy ꜱʜᴇ ᴅᴇᴄɪᴅᴇᴅ ᴛᴏ ꜰᴏʀɢɪᴠᴇ ʜᴇʀ ᴏꜰ ʜᴇʀ ꜰʟᴀᴡꜱ ᴜꜱɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ 'ᴄʜɪʟᴅʀᴇɴ'ꜱ ᴅᴀy ᴄᴇʟᴇʙʀᴀᴛɪᴏɴ' ᴀꜱ ᴩᴀʀᴛ ᴏꜰ ʜᴇʀ ᴩᴏɪɴᴛꜱ.

Below were her words on Instagram; 

@iyaboojofesprisWishing our seeds Happy #ChildrensDay. I have watched ur video. U don't owe me an apology anymore. I have forgiven u because I know what took me unfairly to prison. A letter that came from Iyabo Ojo Pinkies Group NGO phone NOT Gbeminiyi anything. U also lied under oath u didn't know Vivian Metchie who they say I made up. Accepting responsibility is a mark of respect even if your property caused someone else's PAIN�Sadly u prescribed rest & meds for my #PTSD. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is treated with psychotherapy and not medicines as first line. I spend $150/week on therapy and have no money left so I suffer severe pain and nightmares.

Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside us in the absence of an empathic witness. To produce a witness like the Canadian police investigator who unraveled this case means opening both criminal cases again and a lengthy ~12 year trial. There are wounds that never show on my body now that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds. Trauma is not a mental disorder. Trauma is a human experience. Watching people SHOT in front of me at Port Harcourt SARS not knowing if I'm next especially when they abducted me and lied to my family, sleeping in a prison cell where 70 women both inmates and wardresses were attacked and raped when there was a militant jailbreak 10 years ago with fire set in the women's wing wondering if it could happen again? Living with some of the most dangerous women in Nigeria?

#IyaboOjo I suffer helplessness, guilt, shame, self-blame for being an investigative journalist helping people, feeling shut-down, dissociated, avoiding people, places or situations, quick to anger and moodiness or irritability, fearfulness, Nightmares/Reliving the trauma, startle response when I hear loud noises or unexpected situations, Anxiety or Depression. I have social relationship difficulties, difficulty with short-term memory and a lost sense of purpose and a bereaved sense of self. This is why I have SUICIDAL thoughts to END IT with no money to treat. Imagine no meds work except a sedative that makes my eyes sleep15 hrs/daily side effect blinking 150 X/min. My GOD IS AWAKE.
#DrKemi