Actress Dayo Amusa has candidly shared the challenges she faced on her path to motherhood. Despite her longstanding desire to become both a wife and a mother, she encountered significant obstacles, including infertility and personal betrayals.
In a heartfelt Instagram post, Amusa recounted her journey:
"I never thought I would get to this moment, but God knew. For as long as I can remember, I knew I wanted to be a complete woman—a wife and mom."
After experiencing three miscarriages, she was diagnosed with uterine myomatosis in 2015. Some doctors recommended a hysterectomy due to the complications and discomfort she endured during her menstrual cycles. However, Amusa chose to fight and reject that option, opting for medications, injections, and treatments to halt the growth of tumors. Encouraged by her uncle's wife, she sought treatment in the United Kingdom.
On February 14, 2015, she underwent surgery to remove the tumor via TCRE laparoscopy and ovarian drilling. In 2016, she and her then-partner decided to try for a child together but later discovered that one of her fallopian tubes was damaged, making natural conception nearly impossible. During this period, her partner was involved with another woman, resulting in the birth of a son. This relationship eventually ended.
In January 2019, Amusa and her partner attempted in vitro fertilization (IVF), but all efforts were unsuccessful. Her partner, over 40 years old, was eager to have a child that year. He proposed that she allow him to father a child with someone else while she awaited her own miracle baby. Unable to accept this, he left and later had a daughter with another woman.
Devastated, Amusa withdrew and isolated herself, losing interest in activities that once brought her joy, including her career. She battled depression for years, maintaining a facade of happiness to the outside world. Despite these challenges, she never lost faith that God would fulfill her desires.
Reflecting on societal misconceptions, Amusa noted:
"There's this misconception that if someone is smiling, they're okay. If someone is talking about it or has not spoken about it, they must be okay. But the reality is... it's often hard to be okay when you're faced with the challenges of waiting/infertility."
She highlighted the emotional toll of infertility, including constant blame, self-doubt, and societal judgment. She also acknowledged the impact on mental health, relationships, career, and finances.
Throughout this period, her mother suggested relocating to the United States or the United Kingdom for a change of environment. In 2021, Amusa accepted her mother's advice, and this decision marked a turning point in her journey.
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